Call Out What Scares You, And You Will Transcend
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If you want fear and anxiety to release their grip on you, call them out!
Shine a spotlight on those fears. Say to those manic worries, “okay, this may happen.” “So what?”
Let them be seen and accepted as a possible truth, and their chokehold will release.
When we let our fears consume us and spin endlessly in our minds, they keep us held prisoner. What we want so bad, is to not look at them. So, we distract ourselves with food, devices, with work, and anything that prevents us from having to look at them.
But they’re still there, lurking under the surface.
And though movies always seem to show people seeking out the thing they fear most, it goes against our instincts to look for that monster under the bed.
Our instinct is to run from fear. And there are times when it is necessary, like when you are being chased by a madman or you are sheltering from a tornado.
Yet for the majority us, our most debilitating fears are made up of the stories that are being fed to us by irrational thoughts.
It is crucial to understand, that you are not this fearful voice in your head.
It is there, but it is not you. You are the powerful presence behind it. It may seem loud and incessant, but it is not as powerful as it makes itself out to be. This is why when you call it out, it usually has no response.
Think about it, who seems more powerful, the one in the room who is screaming the loudest, or the one who is unaffected by all the screaming? Who is the most frightened? It’s the screamer, the one who panics, the one who won’t shut up. This is no doubt the most insecure, frightened one in the room.
And again, even though you can hear it in there, it isn’t you.
Most of the thoughts we are experiencing, can be considered recordings from another time. Maybe they are our parent’s thought recordings that they received from their parent’s recordings, and so on. Maybe they are recorded fears and thoughts from incidents we experienced as a child and our ego adapted, to help keep us “safe”.
As adults however, these fears and irrational thoughts don’t tend to keep us safe, in the way we would want. They often just keep us “safe” from experiencing our lives fully. They “protect” us from love, joy, success, and from connecting with others.
Whatever you are missing in life is likely within your grasp, if you just loosen the chokehold that the ego’s fears and anxieties have over you.
All you really need to do is look at them. Spread them out on the table.
Those fears represent a scared, shamed, programmed, or abandoned child within you.
And now it just needs the grown up you to say things like, “I know you are afraid. You are safe now. I’ve got you.”
Even if it feels awkward and like it won’t work, (those egoic thoughts will be sure to tell you it won’t), do it anyway.
What have you got to lose?
Reassure your inner child about whatever they are afraid of, so they won’t look at it like its death anymore. (Ego death maybe.)
When the fearful thoughts ensue, speak aloud to them…
“You’re afraid you will fail. It’s okay to fail”.
“You’re afraid that nobody will like you. It’s okay if nobody likes you.”
“You’re afraid you’ll be alone. I understand. You’ll be okay if you’re alone.”
“It’s okay if they abandon me.”
“It’s okay if something bad happens.”
“It’s okay if I miss that opportunity.”
“It’s okay if I they laugh at me.”
“It’s okay if I fail.”
“It’s okay it’s okay it’s okay.”
Let all your ego’s fears come to light. Accept them as possibilities. And when the ego tries even harder and panic sets in, say, “so what?”
Speak them out loud and above the ego voice. Command with the higher power that is within you, and the ego voice will begin to cower.
Anytime we call out what our fearful ego voice painstakingly agonizes over, we loosen its grip on us.
It’s like turning a light on in the dark. There are so many possible things to fear in the darkness. So much you cannot see.
But when you turn on the light, things don’t seem so scary.
When we acknowledge what our scared little child inside of us fears the most, and when we tell them it’s ok, we help them feel safe again. Only then does their dense energy in our body begin to loosen its tight grip on us.
Nobody else can reassure your inner child, but you. Understand that you are the separate, more powerful being behind that fearful manic voice.
Embrace your vast power. Become it.
And you will transcend.